Kennen jullie het verhaal van Alex en Allyson Grey (de kunstenaars)? Alex nam voor het eerst LSD en kwam tijdens zijn trip de eveneens trippende Allyson tegen, en ze leefden nog lang en gelukkig.
Hier is een stukje tekst, niet over die ontmoeting, maar over hun relatie op zich. Uit: Transfigurations
Hieros Gamos: Sacralizing Relationship
Interview with Alex Grey and Allyson Grey
Alex: Our relationship is neither a dictatorship nor some nebulous
bliss-mush; we've been through our cathartic dark spaces and our
healing spaces; purifying our negatives is an ongoing task. Each of
us, because of our individual character, has had specific and
different pathologies to manifest through our relationship.
Complementary pathologies.
Stephen Larsen: I like that: complementary pathologies. It is close to
some of the ideas we are exploring regarding couples in relationships.
As a therapist, these things offer the most amazing growth
opportunities I have ever seen people go through.
Alex: Here is my theory of how couples work: Each person's main
psychological problem comes forward in a close relationship. Each can
express his or her shadow and be healed in a context of love and
support if the problems are complementary. Noncomplementary
pathologies accelerate dysfunction and make both people worse.
My shadow specialty is depression, not exactly catatonic despair; but
hopeless "what's the use" kind of abysmal moods. My moods can really
darken an atmosphere of loving - not extinguish it, but like a black
hole, suck and deplete it.
Allyson: And I come from the "captain of the cheerleaders" tradition
of trying to put a good spin on things, so Alex can look at it in a
different way. But I have my own stuff, an angry Russian Jewish
background; there really is an anger that can be inherited. Alex is
not an angry person. He rarely gets angry at me, which is a very
positive thing.
Alex: Along with the compatible pathology thing, there must be mutual
respect and gratitude - a knowing that the other is really "too good
for you."
Stephen Larsen: How did your creative life change when Zena came along?
Allyson: We began to do many things separately. Originally we would
never go places without each other: grocery shoppings, errands. Then
we had to be in separate places with a child. It was really good for
us. I trailed along with Alex to some retreats of the Dzogchen
Buddhist community, but I didn't feel I could make the same commitment
he had made to it. I became involved in physical stuff, teaching
aerobics and all. For three years it was a different type of life. We
learned that we could operate in separate worlds and then come back
together and work on our life together, such as in the Chapel of
Sacred Mirrors project. We each have to travel away sometimes, but we
have a pivotal point - the home.
Alex: The home is a symbol for our true center, our heart, our love,
which is unshakeable. Zena forced a new aspect of our "life-training"
to become whole independent people, as well as lovers and parents
guiding a new life. We recognized that we needed to develop new
aspects of ourselves. Each new attribute helps the other person.
Allyson's fitness concerns remind me to exercise, and there are
elements from my mystic wanderings that we both benefit from. Our
independent studies become part of a more integrated and deeper life
practice together that we share with Zena. She has contributed so much
joy to our lives, and of course we encourage her self-actualization.
Stephen Larsen: How does your close friendship benefit your worldly life?
Alex: People blessed with a loving relationship naturally bring their
good energy into the wider world. To some degree your love can be
brought into relationships with other people - in groups and schools,
organizations and corporations, and (we wish) between governments.
It's important for everyone to have an atmosphere of love and trust
somewhere in their life.
Check it out, Art Mind:
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-3113312004008852745
Ik ben er zelf door z'n vader mee in aanraking gekomen. Die raadde me op den duur aan om 'ns paddo's te proberen aangezien ik al wat andere experimenten achter de rug had.
