My friend

[thagreat]

I just need to this 'cause i'm really really really worried about my friend.

My friend and I were the best friends about a year ago. We smoked a lot together, weed and salvia. We also ate some seeds. One night we were drinking and i met this girl which i'm still dating. So we got a bit lost from each other, me and my friend that is. As I dated, He smoked and drinked.

We were still pretty close friends, though I wasn't smoking as much as before dating. Nowadays I barely smoke weed at all.

Now, In year 2006, my friend is using extacy and aphetamine and god knows what. He's life is really going down. I'm pretty much against heroine, amphetamine and drugs like that. Natural born plants and such is my thing.

I'm getting a bit lost here, but now this is the thing:

I Feel guilty. My friend is destroying his life ( as i see it ) and i'm dating a wonderful girl. I saw my friend the other day and i've been feeling depressed ever since. He was in his own world, complained how bad he feels, how the cops are all over him and his new great friends just keep pushing drugs to him.

Still he does it and I feel I should do something, but I just cant figure out what.

I don't know is this a good post or something but this just feels something i have to do. I just had to tell someone about this.

Peace out.

 

[Forkbender]

Tough one...
But hey, it's not your fault. I guess he doesn't listen to your reasoning about what you consider 'bad drugs', so that makes it extra hard. Are there any other friends you two share? If so, maybe you could stage something like an intervention. Otherwise, a good trip will usually make him see that his current habits are destructive, but I don't know if he wants to know the truth about himself, which could make it impossible to experience this. Anyway, I hope someone else can give you more advice, cause there's probably people who got experience with this (and i don't). Good luck!

 

[Rutger]

Sounds like a difficult problem but as Forkbender already stated its not your fault you are have some good luck and happiness in your life and he does not.

Most people who get into "harder" drugs like E , speed have this short period from about a year or less that they use a lot. Then they either hit rock bottom or they wise up and find out that this is no way of living.

Can't ofcourse know how bad the situation is but why not try to approach your friend only at an positive way, try to help him but don't judge him about his drug use this will probably only make the problem worse. Try to show him that this is a whole world out there with people who spend there lives without using all kinds of chemicals and still can have fun.

I am a bit of a hypocrit here , my idea of having fun (not more than once a week) is to drink myself stupid and behave horribly but I am working on that, nobody is perfect !

 

[marc]

I's tough, that's for shure. I'm in the same situation with my brother, he's using speed on a daily basis.

I've found out that the person in question has to help himself. As long as he/she does not see that ha/she has a problem, there will be no solution.

The harder you push to stop him/her using drugs, the harder he/she will take them.

You can hold him a mirror up and show his behaviour when he's high. Videotape him and show it to him when he's sober. Also, don't discuss his problem when he's high, but start the discussion when he's sober, preferably when he has a bad drughangover and is complaining about it.

Good luck !

 

[ProStoner]

hmmm before reading forkbenders part about a good trip should help
I was thinking the same thing..
a good dosage of shrooms might show him how bad he's living his life..
but this would have to been done with a sitter , u ,
and I guess he's not really in the mood for something like that
otherwise.. give him a smack in the face .. tell him .. wtf are u doing?
how long are u planning on keeping this up ????
u think that will work ?? u think that this will get u anywhere at all...
that this is good for u ?? that u need this ?? why would u need this ?/
do I need it ?? no... I dont..
and then start a bit more soft.. like .. don't u remember the old days ??
remember him about the funny times u guys had.. and now that is gone..
ask him if he doesnt miss that.. cause I bet he does
tell him ur also sorry about (maybe spending 2 much time with your girlfriend)
and that that might have upset him
and ofcorse make him KNOW that u`ll support him


this ofcorse would be the perfect situation kinda thing.. if these things would solve it ??
I don't know if this will work for your situation...
but its just my thoughts on how I would try to solve it

hope this helps m8